My Path to Healing From Migraine Headaches

Mar 22, 2022

In the Spring of 2020, I joined the covid gardening craze and was excited to put these purple and apricot flowering San Diego natives in our garden. My husband had to prep the soil for me before I could put them in the ground. As anyone who has gardened in southern California knows, the soil is heavy on clay and easily becomes rock solid. Even in this small planter, if I had spent the hours needed to break up and amend the soil, I almost certainly would have ended up with a very sore neck and a doozy of a migraine. 

Fast forward to 2021. In the rest of the garden, I planted salvias, dahlias, and various other pretties. The process was mine, from start to finish. I hauled granite rocks, weeded, broke up and amended the soil, dug the holes and put in the plants. I love these details, because this time I did it ALL BY MYSELF. I was tired and my neck was a little sore, but did I get a migraine? I did not!

The difference a year can make! Without the concrete reminder of my garden, I would almost not believe it.

Migraines and neck pain were part of my life for 20 years. Regular headaches morphed into frequent and intense migraines, until migraines were fused with my identity. Eventually, my life felt like a whittled down version of itself. Almost every decision I made was filtered through the lens of how it would affect my head. Exercise was severely limited—even a vigorous walk could trigger neck pain and a migraine. I became a detective searching for clues. What triggered the tightness in my neck and the feeling I’d been run over by a truck? Was it not enough water? Not enough sleep? Was I eating the wrong foods or not eating often enough? Was it the wine I drank? Did I have sugar too close to bedtime? Was it my menstrual cycle? Was it from being in the sun for too long, or the shifting barometric pressure?

I tried various medications, botox injections all over my neck and head, acupuncture, chiropractic and osteopathic treatments, cutting out certain foods and adding various supplements, reading the latest book that promised a cure…you name it. Sometimes I’d experience relief in the form of less intense migraines. But they always returned in full force. While some of these treatments felt good, they did nothing to heal the underlying issue. 

A few years ago, in my Life Coach Training, I became friends with a classmate, Rebecca Tolin, who shared her remarkable story of healing. After 13 years of Chronic Fatigue Syndrome, she finally recovered through the approach of Dr. John Sarno and Dr. Howard Schubiner. It’s based on rewiring the brain and understanding how fear and repressed emotions are fuel for chronic pain, fatigue and other symptoms. This phenomenon is called Tension Myositis Syndrome (TMS) or Mind Body Syndrome (MBS).

Rebecca told me that migraines fall under the umbrella of Mind Body Syndrome. Though it wasn’t hard for me to accept that occasionally a migraine came on as the result of stress, to put my condition fully in the Mind Body category brought out my inner skeptic. I was still convinced that, at the very least, hormones were a culprit.

As I pondered her story I became more curious. After all, I had tried everything else. Eventually, I made the connection between this diagnosis and the way I’d learned to approach stressful situations throughout my life. When the lightbulb went on, relief from neck pain was almost immediate and the migraines were greatly reduced. I worked through Dr Schubiner’s workbook, Unlearn Your Pain, and took a course taught by Mind Body Coaches Rebecca Tolin and Michelle Wiegers. The knowledge I gained proved life changing.

I now give very little thought to the triggers I mentioned above. My choices are no longer dictated by whether my head and neck will be able to handle it. What’s more, I have a much better understanding of how my body responds to stress, and of the important role emotions play in health and well-being. When I feel a headache coming on (I get them occasionally), my go-to thoughts have changed from, “Oh no, what did I eat? What physical activity did I do that I shouldn’t have?” to “What am I stressed about? What do I need in this moment? What is my body trying to tell me?” Usually, paying attention to these questions is enough to regain my equilibrium. 

The path to healing body, mind and soul has become one and the same. My body was the messenger, shouting for deeper and more loving attention. I’m learning a different language now, a way of being that tends to my emotional life and calms my nervous system. Using the multifaceted approach of teaching my brain that I am safe, asking where in my life something is out of kilter, and treating myself with greater kindness and compassion, I’m learning to speak the language of body and soul.

If you’re struggling with chronic pain, fatigue or other symptoms, or are simply curious, here is a resource to help you get started in understanding MBS. Make sure to scroll down to watch Dr. Schubiner’s short video explanation.

In addition to Life Coaching I now offer Mind-Body Coaching. It is my heart’s desire to reach a helping hand out to those who experience chronic physical symptoms and who long to find full enjoyment and engagement in life. Contact me for a consultation to see whether this is for you.


  1. Alicia

    Wow, Karol! I am so happy for you and proud that you followed this path. Goodness, I have known you for more than half of those 2 decades and I always knew migraines were such a chronic, debilitating part of your life and it is just so amazing the connections you have been able to make, and the relief that has come. I am just so proud and happy for you! You have a lot to teach others and I am so inspired to work with my own emotions in a more centered and honoring way, rather than just suffering and feeling stuck.

    • Christina Paterniti

      I’m forever thankful for the Healing touch of massage that you provided to me when I was fatigued and stressed as a caregiver to my ALS stricken husband on hospice.
      Your kindness, support and prayer for clarity were always inspirational and more….

      • Karol Miller

        Christina, it so warms my heart to hear from you. What you were doing at that time was so deeply giving, and I was honored to be a small part of your support team. I hope you’re doing really well these days.

  2. Karol Miller

    Alicia dear, your comment made my day! I’m honored that you find my story inspiring, and touched by your happiness for me. Thank you, and lots of love.

  3. Rachel Sair

    I absolutely LOVE your blog post that I came across via the TMS – The Mindbody Syndrome Facebook page.
    Your writing is incredible! I have been wanting to write a blog post for quite some time but have a hard time finding the right words/wording. So far I only have my “before” story posted.
    I have a very similar story of having healed in the past 1+ years from more than 2 decades of chronic migraines using the TMS approach after having already tried pretty much every mainstream and alternative medical approach.

    I just shared this post with someone who contacted me after I shared my story on TMS RoundTable. She believes that TMS is the cause of her migraines but is stuck on the hormonal connection with so many migraines before, during and after her periods. I have tried to encourage her to contact the TMS coach that I worked with but now told her that you might be the key she needs to learn about the role that hormones play in her migraines.

    Thanks for sharing your story!

    • Karol Miller

      Thank you for your very kind words, Rachel! I appreciate you sharing the post. I get it–hormones were the first reason I was given for why I’d developed migraines and it was the last ‘reason’ I clung to.

      It’s wonderful that you’ve also found relief, and I look forward to checking out your story on TMS RoundTable. Thank you for commenting!


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Hi, I'm Karol.

I help individuals facing TMS issues such as chronic migraine or fatigue release pain and get back to the activities they love. Using a mind-body approach that allows them to heal on a physical, emotional, and spiritual level I help them shift into seeing pain as a pathway to greater self-compassion, resilience and self-awareness. I help my clients come home to the wisdom they carry within. 

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